We had a wonderful Thanksgiving dinner and of course, I ate too much, the turkey was awesome, the conversation light and entertaining, the desserts, plentiful and delicious. But now, the dishes are clean, the silver is stowed for another year. But I’m still in the mood to give thanks. Many of you may know that I recently traveled to San Diego, for the memorial service for my half-sister, Patricia Anne Trimble. It was a lovely gathering of family and friends, and I was quite moved by a quote that the Pastor read to us at the close of the ceremony. It is called, “What will Matter” by Michael Josephson, and I am quoting it here, as it is fitting for this time of year when we have the opportunity to reflect on what is really important in our lives.
“Ready or not, some day it will all come to an end. There will be no more sunrises, no minutes, hours or days. All the things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten, will pass to someone else. Your wealth, fame and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance. It will not matter what you owned, or what you owed.
Your grudges, resentments, frustrations, and jealousies will finally disappear. So, too, your hopes, ambitions, plans and to-do lists will expire. The wins and losses that once seemed so important will fade away. It won’t matter where you came from or what side of the tracks you lived on at the end. It won’t matter whether you were beautiful or brilliant. Even your gender and skin color will be irrelevant.
So, what will matter? How will the value of your days be measured?
What will matter, is not what you bought, but what you built; not what you got, but what you gave.
What will matter is not your success, but your significance.
What will matter is not what you learned, but what you taught.
What will matter is every act of integrity, compassion, courage, or sacrifice that enriched, empowered, or encouraged others to emulate your example.
What will matter is not your competence, but your character.
What will matter is not how many people you knew, but how many will feel a lasting loss when you are gone.
What will matter is not your memories, but the memories that live in those who loved you.
What will matter is how long you will be remembered, by whom, and for what.
Living a life that matters doesn’t happen by accident. It’s not a matter of circumstance, but choice.
And so, the challenge to us all is to choose to live a life that matters.”
I would like to add that I choose to offer up these words to you, friends I’ve met in person, and friends I’ve made through this wonderful digital world we share on the internet. Human connections are so very important, no matter the medium. Thank you so much for stopping by and I’d love to hear what matters to you.
I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
Yes our lives are fleeting and go by like a blink of an eye. And we can’t take these things with us when we go. Funny how possessions mean so much to people when they are alive. Yet they just don’t have the same meaning to others afterwards.
You’ve been a busy girl lately with the awesome workshop, then a funeral and the care-taking of your mother. I hope you get a chance to catch your breathe.
Good to have you back. Take care!
Thanks Karen for your kind words. Add to the list trying to re-write my novel. But now that Thanksgiving i s over, I’ve had some quiet time to concentrate on my work. Thanks so much for dropping by and I look forward to your new posts.
What an inspiring post! The quote is beautiful. Thanks, Rachel.
What matters to me is family and friends, and making the world a tiny bit better. I hope I’m up to the task.
Have a great weekend!
Hi Fabio, thanks for stopping by. I was really touched when the Pastor read it at the service. words to live by. Have a wonderful weekend, too!
We’re all searching for meaning, Rachel. Thanks for sharing some wonderful answers to that search.
Hi Diane, thanks for stopping by. This quote sure puts things in perspective, doesn’t it. So, let’s go build some more friendships.
Wow…everyone should print this out and hang it where they can see it daily (and READ it). It’s an excellent reminder of the importance of setting priorities. Too many people value things that don’t matter. When it comes right down to it, it’s only the people we love and care about that are important.
I’m very sorry for the loss of your sister. 🙁
Thanks for stopping by and it is so easy to get caught up in all the “stuff” especially when you see people going crazy over Black Friday sales. Thanks for your kind words about my sister.
This is beautiful, Rachel, a terrific reminder of what is truly important in life. Thank you so much for sharing it!
I’m glad you found something in the post that speaks to you. Thanks for stopping by.
Beautiful post, Rachel. Thanks for sharing it. We all need to know we matter – to someone somewhere. But we often forget that we matter by doing all the things mentioned in this post. thanks for the reminder.
And I’m sorry for your loss.
Thanks so much for your comment, it is so easy to forget the important things and get caught up in the “stuff” of our modern lives. We all need a good reality check every now and then.