Hi All!
Man, I hate to keep sounding like a downer, but we just had to have the talk with my mom about moving her into an Retirement home. Yippeee… Truth is, she realized the time had come and with hugs and tears between her, me and my husband, I’m sure we will all muddle through. So, I am telling all of you right now, as soon as I start peeing my pants and forgetting what day it is, park me in the Caviar and Champagne Rest Home and call it a day.
And because I hate feeling sorry for myself, I dug up another favorite quote, this from Aldous Huxley, puts it all in perspective. And playing in the photoshop sandbox always makes me feel better. Enjoy!
Thanks for stopping by, I love hearing your comments, even though it takes me some time to get to them, time zones and all. All my best wishes go out to you this day.
Rachel,
You don’t sound like a downer, not even when you’re feeling down.
Au contraire! (Forgive me for practicing my Proust, plah, plah.) You sound brave and strong.
And, please, could you provide me with the address of The Caviar and Champagne Rest Home? I have a friend, a withering grouch of an old Sicilian don, who just might be ready to settle down for the rest of his life.
Thanks.
Anthony,
I’m sure you can create the Caviar and Champagne resthome anywhere… as long as you have the cash. Lucky for me when I got married, my hubby bought me Long Term Care Insurance. He must really love me.
We’re going thru this right now, too, Rachel, so I feel your pain. Some places are so depressing and all you want is a beautiful cheerful retirement home for your loved ones. We were very lucky in that we found THE MOST BEAUTIFUL retirement home in the world. Makes me want to put in my reservation for, let’s say, in 40 years or so. 🙂
I’m glad you found your mom a wonderful place and that she’s happy with it, too!
Sheila,
Thanks so much for your words of support. No matter how hard you try, you kinda can’t help but feel like a bit of a failure, but it’s time to be realistic and move on. Thanks for stopping by.
I’m so sorry Rachel. Been there, done that. It’s a tough one. Parents do not like to loose their independence and ours fought it touth and nail. Er.
I hope things go smoothly for you my friend. Hang in there, it will get better.
I see a princess moment in your future! lol 🙂
That’s a great quote. It can be hard to know what sorrow is avoidable and what is inevitable, though. I do think as people we tend to be negative and drive ourselves crazy, but it’s also dangerous to go too far in the other direction and not allow ourselves to feel pain (even if it seems like we shouldn’t be feeling it).
I hope everything works out for you and your family.
Hi Alana, what I like about the quote is it recognizes that yes, life is rough, but don’t wallow in it. I know lots of people who allow themselves to be victims of their circumstances and all they do is complain about how rough they have it without recognizing that we all have our troubles. Thanks for stopping by.
I actually wanted to bring my father home with me and he wouldn’t have it. Didn’t want to be a burden on me and my new family. Especially with the new baby. I won’t share my story with you because you sounded down as it is and it’s not very uplifting. But he finally did get to go in his retirement home for the time that he had and they were really good to him. My grandparents really liked theirs. I am sure your mother will be happy once she gets settled.
Debra, actually I think mom will do well, we’ve found a place that has really done its research, and have designed a really wonderful place. I’ll keep you posted.
not a downer at all, Rachel. My sisters have finally realized we need to get ready to ahve this conversation with my mom who was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s 2 years ago. All of a sudden they want her moved out of her condo and into an assisted living facility. Sheesh…It’s about time.
Louise, As it turns out, mom and I have been able to talk about it and I explained everything I’ve learned
about the care home I want to place her in and she said, “sounds better than home.” Hearing that was such a
relief. I will have some peace of mind knowing she will be getting the care she needs.